Now that you have established a strong self care routine, chosen to nourish yourself with the right food and have different resources that help support and lead you closer to your goals - what does being and feeling your best truly look like?
How would things look? Will it show in your eyes? Or maybe your expression, your body, your clothing, your office? Will it show in what car you drive? How would you feel throughout the day? How would your energy look like? Will you be happy? What would your priorities be?
Being at your best is about optimising your body, mind, and environment for optimal performance. It is about setting yourself up for a marathon, not a sprint, that gives you the highest level of enjoyment with the performance that allows you to get to the finish line. It means having an aligned body and mind.
You already know you are capable of great things. You know that under the right circumstances you could go far. You believe in yourself and what you can accomplish. You may have a picture of yourself in your mind’s eye: a vision of making all your dreams a reality, of achieving the success you know could be yours.
Now all you need to do is take all the habits you have created for the last three weeks and get them onboard to become that version of yourself.
But what exactly does it mean to be your best self? More often than not, it actually boils down to these 10 principles:
1. Making Room for Mistakes
You might think it’s ironic to say that being your best self involves allowing yourself to make mistakes, but it’s true. It would be impossible to reach new heights and conquer new adventures if you’re too afraid to fail or make mistakes. Being your best self means daring to go out of your comfort zone, putting yourself out there and trying out new things even without any assurance on how it will turn out. As they say, if you never try, you’ll never know. Listening to or giving in to that fear will inevitably get in your way to being your best self.
2. Considering Yourself As Your Only Competition
Comparing yourself to other people will always be a fool’s errand, because there will always be someone who is better and someone who is less adept than you at something. Instead, look inwards for your best and only competition. The only record you should want to break is a record you yourself have previously set.
3. Having Purpose
Everything you do must be in service of your purpose in life. Knowing the why behind doing the things you do will help to keep you on the right track that will lead to the best version of yourself. Being purposeful in the things that you do will give meaning to all of your endeavours, in effect pushing you towards a better version of yourself.
4. Giving Your Best Effort in Everything You Do
Keep in mind that when you fall short of a goal or when you lose at something, it doesn’t mean that you have already failed at being your best self. In this regard, what’s important is that you are free of regret. It’s really not so much about the winning or the losing, but getting to say you gave it your best effort and that really gets you closer to the best version of yourself ever.
5. Not Spreading Yourself Too Thin
Biting off more than you can chew will make it hard for you to do your best in all of them. Keep your focus on just one or two things at a time, this way you can give your all in both things without stressing yourself out too much. Giving yourself plenty of time to rest and refresh your body and mind is also key in being your best self.
6. Knowing Your Weaknesses
It’s pretty hard to intentionally improve yourself when you have no idea which parts of yourself need improving. There is power in knowing your weaknesses so you can take the necessary action steps to address them, thus pushing yourself to become better.
7. Developing Good Habits
Success is inevitably linked with having good habits. It doesn’t matter if it’s something as mundane as flossing before you brush your teeth, or dumping your clothes straight in to the hamper rather than leaving them on the floor — you need to do it day after day conscientiously until it becomes a habit that you do out of sheer muscle memory. So whenever you want to do something good for yourself on a regular basis, like, practicing your instrument everyday or learning at least two new words daily, you have to keep doing it day after day until it becomes part of a routine that you can do in your sleep. If you want to have better habits, good practices must become second nature to you.
8. Staying on Top of Your Health
Being your best self means being able to respond to life’s challenges because you have the physical and mental capability to do so. It’s never too early to start working out, especially since there are a lot of exercise routines you can do at home without signing up for a gym or without having to buy any equipment. This also extends to your mental health. Burnout can happen to anyone regardless of age, so you have to protect yourself from it. As mentioned earlier, it’s important to leave some time for rest and recreation even though there are dreams you are trying to chase.
9. Maintaining a Good Attitude
In line with that, being your best self also means having a good attitude and mindset about everything you do. It’s putting a good spin on everything, even though things may be hard sometimes. We can never control what kinds of challenges life throws at us, but we can always control how we react to them. Keeping a positive outlook means recognizing that there are ways to improve or recover from every setback you might encounter in life. Once you have this mindset nailed down, being your best self would feel more inspiring and adventure-like rather than something that only leaves you pressured.
10. Being a Positive Force in The World
Finally, when you’re constantly working to achieve your best self, it’s not just you who will notice. Your family, friends, and everyone around you will feel blessed seeing you blossom into the kind of person you were always born to become. Thus, being your best self also means being a blessing to other people, by virtue of your compassion, kindness, and ability to empower yourself and other people.
The best and most exciting thing about wanting to be your best self, is that it’s a lifelong journey. Just when you thought you have reached your peak, you’ll find that there’s always something you can do to push yourself further, and to improve or fine-tune everything that you have become. Growth can be painful and uncomfortable sometimes, but being your best self means keeping at it and being tougher when times get tough.
As long as you remain steadfast in constantly improving yourself and keeping track of your purpose, there won’t be any limits to what you can achieve in this life.
It’s time to stretch yourself; to grow and allow yourself to develop. Think of this as a journey of self-discovery.